The struggle of the successful woman

The older and closer I get to the dirty thirties, the more I notice a shift in myself and my peers. The less cautious one is of preventing the chances of falling pregnant; the more desperate we become to “settle down”; and the less time we want to spend by ourselves. It’s as if the…

A page from my notebook

The art of letter writing has slowly become a forgotten form instead instant messaging, DMs and emails have replaced it. But a few weeks back a friend received a posted letter and I was immediately inspired to gift my ex-boyfriend the same thing. So late Tuesday evening I began scratching around in my art &…

T’s & C’s of marriage

I don’t have any personal experience in marriage, let alone know how to take care of a baby. However this past weekend I learnt quite a bit from family and friends at my cousin’s bridal shower, on their womanly advice to her on what she should expect in marriage. Sister circle My cousin’s older sister…

Wakanda Warriors

I rarely ever entertain the thought of watching popular or highly commercialized movies at the cinema unless of course a friend coaxes me into joining them. However, I decided to take myself out to go watch the much talked about Black Panther. Truthfully, I wasn’t sure what to expect since it was my first time…

Peeling back the layers

Recently, when I came to the realization of my foolish pride I kept thinking about the moment in Shrek 1 when Shrek tells Donkey that just like an onion, he is layered. I can’t remember what sparked the conversation about the onion, but it stuck in my mind when I was confronting myself. I’ve found…

Girlfriend Olympics

Who knew that the Winter Olympics would inspire such an interesting as well as a funny thread of tweets about the levels that couples do in their relationships. And people say no one cares for the Winter games. I won’t lie I caught onto the trend late but my goodness I loved every second of…

Life after 26

Life after 26 sort of creeps up on you, and it’s so subtle. First it’s the friends who get engaged to their long-term boyfriends; it’s the wedding and all the memorable moments created on the big day; then lastly it’s the beautiful baby from the union. And all of this for your viewing pleasure, you’ll…

Platonic friendships

I’m not sure about you but I’m forever asked about my relationship status with male friends. I guess for many it raises the question whether females and males can truly just be friends. Personally, I feel it’s possible since I have quite a few healthy platonic friendships with guys. That doesn’t mean that some haven’t…

Evolving (Uncut)

This will be my first piece, in a while, that doesn’t get edited by my editor/manager (sorry), my spirit feels like rebelling so please bear with me. I guess part of my rebellion stems from the constant questions that have been swirling through my head, raw questions and thoughts that aren’t always edited. However, I…

Under 40 and divorced

I have no in-depth knowledge on marriage since I have never been married, however, there are enough people around me for me to have seen the consequences of marriage. Don’t get me wrong I intend on getting married but I feel for now, more than ever, the importance of understanding why I want to get…

Otaku: Obsession

Otaku: a Japanese term for people with obsessive interests, commonly the anime and manga fandom. I fucken love this term, it gives power to the often negatively connoted word obsession. For some odd reason people assume obsession to mean that you are isolated and anti-social thus seen to not have a place in the world….

20-enjoy!

It has come to that time of the year where everyone begins preparing for the festive season and wrapping up the last business days. Similarly, this will be the last post for this year and what an amazing year it has been. My friends and I dubbed 2017: the year of abundance, and it has…